No Girls Allowed

This week the guys were in the studios with just guys. And while that may be a fantasy for some women, it is nice to get away once in a while. I love Ernie, but he makes sure we each get our own time. I realize now why that’s important. I grew up with parents who were very old school. Mom and Dad always had to be together. If she didn’t go somewhere, he probably wouldn’t either. There were times he went out of the house, but it was usually to take us somewhere. Lately, Ernie has been taking my brother and I out every once in a while and my parents are home alone. Either just the two of them, or just the one.

Ernie told me early on that it was good for them. I worried at first, or figured they would just go to sleep, but he reminded me that they were once a young couple in love and married. Then they had kids and never got a moment alone again. They work hard, they sleep and they get up the next day to do it again. I do think they should do some things for themselves. It becomes hard when you’ve got a family to remember that you’re two people in love and choosing to be together. Instead you act like two business partners, making sure the bills are paid, the money is coming in, the workers are doing their jobs and the supplies are in stock. I like that he tries to make my parents make time for each other. He points out when his parents are just sitting talking and laughing together and says he hopes we have that some day too. I do too.

I know my parents need some time to themselves too. Some time to just do what you want to do for you, even if that just means taking a nap and using up the whole bed. I wish I could do so much more for them. I wish I could get my mom to a spa or get my dad to play sports again, but it just isn’t very likely. The best thing I can do for now is clean the house, clear it of all people and give them suggestions, or buy them tickets to something. My parents have always been very important to me. I appreciate what they’ve done for me and I hope that I can learn from them to have my own alone time.

I have been in relationships in the past where friends weren’t really an option. I couldn’t have any guy friends without the suspicion of cheating coming around. Then stuff like that would upset my female friends and they wouldn’t want me to be with that person, who then wouldn’t want me hanging with the girls. I didn’t like clubbing or anything like that, and I was happy with my family, so I never really bothered to think about it. Then when I started dating ERNIE, I met all these really cool people and they wanted to talk and hang out. Suddenly I found I had my own friends. I mean, sure, I met them through him, but they’re my friends too. I didn’t want ERNIE to think he couldn’t hang out with his friends, and now I can hang out with my own friends. We have time to ourselves. I miss him, of course, but it is also a great feeling when I can talk to some people I can relate to and who feel the same things as me, not just understand them. It is definitely true what ERNIE says, “Girls just want to know they’re not crazy.”